Take the 12-Question Friendship Quiz
Read each statement and rate how closely it describes the way you usually behave in friendships. Think about your overall pattern across several friendships rather than one unusually close, difficult, or recent relationship. Use the same scale for every statement: - 1 — Not at all like me - 2 — Slightly like me - 3 — Somewhat like me - 4 — Mostly like me - 5 — Very much like me Record one number for each statement. There are no ideal answers, and a higher total is not automatically better. The quiz looks at four different ways people create and maintain friendship. 1. If a friend tells me about an important event, problem, or decision, I usually remember to ask about it again later. 2. When a friend group becomes quiet or disconnected, I am often the person who suggests a plan or gives everyone a reason to reconnect. 3. Friends tend to tell me things they have not shared with the rest of the group because they expect me to listen without judging them. 4. When something feels wrong in a friendship, I would rather acknowledge it respectfully than pretend everything is fine. 5. I show care through consistency: keeping promises, remembering details, arriving when I said I would, and staying present after the urgent moment has passed. 6. I enjoy introducing people, welcoming someone new, and helping friends from different parts of my life feel comfortable together. 7. When a friend is upset, I can stay with their feelings without immediately changing the subject, cheering them up, or trying to solve the problem. 8. When a friend feels stuck, I naturally help them separate the problem into choices, consequences, and possible next steps. 9. I am comfortable letting long stretches of time pass without being the person who checks in or restarts the connection. 10. I prefer joining plans that someone else has organized rather than being responsible for bringing people together. 11. When someone is upset, practical advice usually feels more useful to me than spending a long time listening to the emotion behind the problem. 12. Keeping the peace usually matters more to me than naming a problem that could make the friendship temporarily uncomfortable.
